Rugby and American Football
In the game of life, we need both past and future experiences to truly transform ourselves.
In the game of life, we need both past and future experiences to truly transform ourselves. To explain this further, let’s consider two sports games. In rugby, the rule dictates that when passing the ball, it can only be done backwards. While in American football, the reverse is the case—it is passed forwards. This made me think about how our lives are shaped. Oftentimes, we are told not to focus on the experiences of the past, and instead pay attention to the events of the present and the future. This is actually great because it ensures that we are moving forward in life. However, I still think about the game of rugby. If it is played backwards, there are certainly things in our past that we can use to move forward in life. Of course, we do not want to dwell on those things as they no longer serve us.
I recently came across a 10-year-old picture of myself and I saw this very beautiful young lady sitting at an outdoor mall somewhere, smiling. What I realized was that at that point in my life, I was going through the “I’m not good enough” phase. On the surface, I looked bright and happy. But on the inside, I had this feeling of not being good enough—I needed something more to fill me up. Looking at that picture, I had a moment of awakening. I realized that there were aspects of my life where I still felt like I wasn’t good enough and I have to force and change them to become someone else in ways that are not, I would say, self-serving to who I am. This is how I came upon the idea of passing the ball backwards in rugby and passing it forwards in American football. That moment when I noticed that I still had some thoughts about doubts and limitations caused me to pass the ball backwards, and hence move forward to examine the current things that are going on in my life and to remember that we arrive at where we are only because we’re already good enough. We’re here because we are good enough, and no matter where we are in our lives, whatever challenges we face, whatever obstacles may come our way, they are there to help us grow and evolve. Deep down, we are good enough, and this was the perfect reminder.
We're here because we are good enough, and no matter where we are in our lives, whatever challenges we face, whatever obstacles may come our way, they are there to help us grow and evolve. Deep down, we are good enough, and this was the perfect reminder.
I asked myself this: Do I want to spend the rest of my life being in a state of “I don’t feel good enough about my current situation”? I thought, certainly not. The real question I should be asking is this: How can I go back to some of the past experiences that have occurred in my life and use those as a launching pad for my future? That’s the question we really have to ask ourselves. It’s very easy to just move through life and go through the motions and all, but sometimes, passing the ball backwards to relive a moment when we thought very little of life itself, we realize that life was actually wonderful at the time, but the negativity we felt was only a reflection of our perception. Applying this to my life today, I change my perception, therefore realizing that for the rest of my years on this planet, it is really important that I’m aware of my current feelings and challenges so I don’t look back 30 years from now and say, “What was all of that about?” when I am actually reliving an amazing life.
This is all I wanted to talk about today. Just look at your life and ask yourself, “Are there things in my past that seem horrible at the time, but now when I look back, they were actually wonderful things that had its purpose?” and “Am I repeating those same behaviors right now in my present life, and if so, what can I do to actually transform them so I don’t look back 30 years from now and wonder why I was seeing negative things at a wonderful time in my life?”
This is my thought for today.